Do People Really Change??
Does anyone have the answer to this question? My life is currently in limbo, and I can not choose a path until I decide if people really can change. If a person can change, can the person who was harmed ever really forget. I am confident in my ability to forgive, but what if everytime I look at this person I see the past. How can I live my life that way. Waiting for the next time, can I ever forget?
What in the world is this crazy person talking about? I'm sure you all are on the right path, my husband and I have separated. Me and my two girls are staying with my mom. My husband has a lot of good qualities, but he unfortunately has some bad ones as well. He has a problem controlling his emotions, anger being the emotion he most often feels! Last Monday it got out of control and we left, and have not been back. My husband has promised counseling and a complete overhauling of himself if we could just please come back. I think my husband is a good person, who has harbored some issues deep within himself his entire life. Can a counselor really bring light to an area that has been dark for an entire lifetime? I hope so, I myself am in counseling hoping for a ray of light to shine on my deep dark secret, that has caused problems in my marriage.
I am afraid and confused and happy not to be dealing with him, I don't really know what I am to be honest. I have no idea how to sort this thing out, I need a place to begin. For now the kids are safe, but not excatly happy.
posted by cara at 5:25 AM
9 Comments:
evolution, not radical change. Is a point of view :)
Find some quiet and ask yourself the questions you are asking in this post... listen to your answers... you know the truth... listen to your truth... you have all the wisdom inside of you that you need to make the right decisions... sometimes we have too much "monkey chatter" going on inside our heads to really HEAR the wisdom and truth inside of us...when you don't know what to do - do nothing...take your time as you have 2 other wonderful spirits along with you for the ride and believe thee me, (as you well know!) they are paying attention - watching you and how you deal with challenges- they are learning - teach them well. It hurts my heart that you are going through this difficult time right now. But, I take comfort in the knowing that you have all the tools you need inside of you.
I love you. The Momma.
Momma what am I to teach them that we can not forgive, or that we accept less than we deserve?
*Huge Hug*
I don't know what to say my dear, but I will be here to listen and give virtual hugs
xxx
Oh, God, Cara, I love you!!! I love you, and this kills me for you and for the girls. KILLS me!!! You know I can only be honest with you, even though it is not easy. Listen to The Momma, what she said is the only truth there is right now. Reread it a million times, and hear her, hear me, and hear the love of 2 people who know you.
Some things aren't worth forgiveness.
I love you, always always.
P.S. I am prouder than there are words to express of you for posting this, BTW. I love you again.
Oh Cara, I am so, so sorry. This is just awful, and I'm sorry you and the girls have to go through this. I can only say that yes, sometimes people do change. But as Alisha said, some things aren't worthy of forgiveness, either. Only you know the right answer. But you're in my thoughts and prayers. :(
I am coming from the other side, Cara. I think all things can be forgiven. If you let love transcend everything. But you need time for love to make everything right. Do not hurry, take your time, take care of yourself and the kids, try to be happy. Indulge yourself and let yourself heal. If you pray, try to.
Big hugs to you and your kids.
Alisha- I hope that you still love me when this has all been settled.
Kristi- Thanks for the kind words and keeping me in your thoughts! You are always in my heart. I am so happy for you and your family!
Kai- Thank you! It is good to hear from a believer!
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